[even if you've never once in your life touched an actual live human baby!]
If you’re about to welcome a baby into your home, whether you're pregnant, using a surrogate, adopting, or fostering, you've probably realized there is a lot to learn about caring for newborns. Newborns are different in so many ways, and if you're not prepared to meet their unique needs, you can get overwhelmed pretty quickly.
Maybe you've had a lot of experiences with small children, or maybe you haven't had any. There is something very different about holding, caring for, and being the ultimate authority when it comes to YOUR kid. That's why you'll find teachers, doctors, and even lifelong nannies who are absolutely ROCKED by the birth of their own children.
When you found out a little one was coming into your life, you likely committed to do everything in your power to provide stability and love for your new baby. You're excited to share your life with a brand new little person. But in spite of your good intentions, the love in your heart, and your previous successes in life, you realize that you don’t know what you don’t know when it comes to taking care of your baby day in and day out.
You realize that you don't know what you don't know.
You’ve likely seen the memes about new parent sleep deprivation, and you may be wondering whether it really is THAT BAD, and if so, how will it impact your mood, your thoughts, and your decision-making.
You may have witnessed firsthand some very capable, very confident friends or relatives who were brought to their knees by the stress of caring for their child. You don’t want to go that route.
Whatever your motivation is, you have come to a point where you can bravely admit to yourself that in order to feel truly confident bringing your new baby home, you must learn more about how to meet his or her needs.
Hopefully you’ve had the chance to see a glimpse of the positive side of parenting;
the love and joy that surpasses all the feel-good Instagram filters.
1. Leahy-Warren P, McCarthy G, Corcoran P. First-time mothers: social support, maternal parental self-efficacy and postnatal depression. J Clin Nurs. 2012 Feb;21(3-4):388-97. doi: 10.1111/j.1365-2702.2011.03701.x. Epub 2011 Mar 25. PubMed PMID: 21435059.
You’ve read some books; maybe a bunch of books! You’re an intelligent, caring person. So why can’t you shake that nagging tension you have about what you’ll do when you’re home with your baby and all the help leaves?
Perhaps your anxiety has something to do with all the folklore surrounding babies: the stories your friends have told you about the lack of sleep, the crushing weight of responsibility, and the glass-shattering screaming throughout the night. Even if you have had some experience with children in your professional or social life, you’ve likely never had to be the final authority, the 24 hour support, the ultimate provider.
But you’ve figured out how to do difficult things before! You’ve succeeded in your career, your relationships, your personal growth. “How hard can a baby honestly be?”
And the small voice inside says, “What if it’s super freaking HARD?”
The thing so many parents are missing, the lack of which really does make it super freaking hard, is THE RIGHT SUPPORT. There’s absolutely a ton of first time parents who receive a lot of attention from well-meaning friends and family. But how helpful is it to be told you’re doing it wrong by someone from whom you would never ask for advice? How well-supported will you feel when all you want to do is snuggle your angel for a priceless moment but your “supporters” are all waiting for their turns? Who will you have available to answer your questions in the middle of those sleepless nights?
How great would it be if this were true! Unfortunately, our modern Western culture does a pretty solid job of insulating us from seeing the realities of child rearing until it’s our turn. As a result, many parents have almost no experience to guide their instincts.
Is there value in trusting your gut? Absolutely, yes. But without a fact-based framework to give some perspective to our intuition, we end up flapping back and forth in the breeze.
Parents who intend to raise confident kids should strive to meet their children’s needs for structure and predictability.
This is different from simply trying to take a positive approach. It’s more like making yourself a martyr, as if suffering proves the love you have for your child. It’s important to note that a lack of support correlates with higher rates of postpartum depression,1 which affects the long-term health and development of the baby.2 Looking at it from that perspective, who is ultimately suffering if the parents refuse to accept help?
Wise parents understand that asking for help is a sign of strength, NOT weakness.
2. Maternal depression and child development. Paediatr Child Health. 2004 Oct;9(8):575-598. PubMed PMID: 19680490; PubMed Central PMCID: PMC2724169.
Let’s think of it this way: When would be a better time to learn to play piano? Before or during a huge performance? If you were going on a backpacking trip, would you want to study the map before you ventured out, or after you got lost?
It’s hard to convey the incredible limitations on your moment-to-moment existence once you’re home with a newborn. There is no mental energy for learning new things, only wiping poop off of all the old things.
Well-prepared parents do their homework ahead of time.
You’re halfway to success here! Unfortunately, there’s a thing called pregnancy brain. And there’s another thing called new parent brain. Neither of these afflictions are helpful during high-level cognitive activities, such as raising a child.
As brilliant as you may feel when you are at peak performance, you would be smart to realize that you won’t be in that zone very often in the months following your baby’s birth. What you will need then is a robust cheat sheet stored in a convenient place.
Resourceful parents have a plan for how to get a trustworthy answer to the questions they never thought to ask until 3 AM.
But the more you think about it, the more you realize that desire alone won’t get you the BEST PARENT EVER coffee mug. You’re going to have to do some prep work and learn a thing or two.
And even after you do your strongest pre-learning, there are going to be some bumps along the way that you hadn’t anticipated nor prepared for. You will need a trusted repository of frequently asked questions that you can refer back to in time of need.
And even with all the right answers at exactly the right moments, the duties (doodies?) of your new life will try to get you down. They will isolate you from your loved ones and alienate you from your non-parent friends with all their “time” and “freedom.” So you’re going to want to plug in to the social support of a tribe of like-minded new parents who are facing the same challenges you are.
These are precisely the needs we set out to serve when we created:
with Monica and Brent Simmons
We have a combined 20 years of nursing background coupled with the experience of raising our 4 young children (including a set of twins), from which we have collected our best wisdom to impart to new moms and dads.
When we had our first kid, we were surprised to learn that in spite of our training and experience as registered nurses, (and Monica even being a pediatric and neonatal nurse) we felt we were not as well prepared for parenthood as we would have liked. Because of the struggles we experienced, we decided we would dedicate ourselves to helping other new moms and dads. We have spent the last 4 years serving our local community in Phoenix, AZ with in-person classes and services for expectant parents. But all along, we knew that one day parents like YOU would be in a similar position to where we once were, and we wanted to be ready to help you in a big way.
Newborn Care for Newbies will give you the factual knowledge you need to begin meeting your baby’s needs from day one. It will provide you with the kind of education and support we wish we had 7 ½ years ago.
The end result: You will know how to confidently meet all of your baby’s needs without having to call your annoying know-it-all cousin, without a PhD in babyology, and without having to wonder if Dr. Google is telling you the truth this time.
This really is the only system of its kind that:
1. Gives you an incredibly sturdy foundation of training to cover the basics of baby care.
2. Provides 24 hour access to all the resources with a video search function to help quickly find what you need.
3. Offers you the confidence that comes from having a tested support system.
Newborn Care for Newbies is a video course that goes through all the things new parents need to know to take good care of their babies. It includes:
Some of the things that worry new parents are actually normal, expected findings in newborns. This module helps you know the difference between something to worry about and something to just appreciate.
Do you appreciate sleeping enough? Your baby does too! Let's make sure there's plenty of it to go around.
Your baby's growth and development has a lot to do with the quality and quantity of her food. Get started on the right foot with nursing or formula or both.
You know there is a lot of poop coming to your house very soon, right? What to do with it all? We'll teach you.
Nobody likes to hear a crying baby. Love your child? Yes, of course! But the crying has got to come to an end, right?
You're hired as your newborn's aesthetician! Now you might want to learn your job description.
We are confident that you will be much more well-prepared with our help. If you don't feel that your investment was well-spent, we will offer you a full refund within the following parameters.
First of all, you've gotta dig in like the star student you know you can be. If you can't commit to yourself that you will watch the videos and download the PDFs, we'd really prefer you just keep your money in the first place. WE WANT YOU TO BE SUCCESSFUL!
So if you purchased Newborn Care for Newbies, you've gotten into the course, began watching and reading the content, and you still don't feel MUCH more confident bringing your newborn home, please email [email protected] within 30 days of purchase for a full refund.
There may be other rare exceptions, such as loss of pregnancy, that would warrant a refund. Please reach out to us if you feel you should get a refund, and we will consider your situation on a case-by-case basis.
You don't have to wonder if you'll know what to do when your baby arrives. With the right information at the right time, you will be the most confident, well prepared first time parents on the block.
Gets you instant access to the entire course for a full 12 months.
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